Dostana

The much hyped film of 2008 was in news for its blatant exhibition of homosexuality. Though the film didn’t ridicule nor did it justify homosexuality, same sex love stood as the USP of that film. Most of us as will admit that when we hear someone say "Dostana" the immediate thing which comes to our mind is homosexuality. Though I do agree that homosexuality was a background on which the film was made to humour the audience and make it a commercial success, but at the same time I refuse to accept that Dostana was a senseless film and an out n out commercial film with no morals or story whatsoever.

If I may point out, looking at the title itself that the film wasn't just about homo sexuality but about "friendship." And the friendship here isn't just limited to AB and John but the trio which included Priyanka. The film talks about how people make sacrifices in friendship and how much important is friendship like other blood ties.

It starts with AB and John joining hands and giving up their ambition to get into a romantic fling with Priyanka in order to not lose her friendship. And they do everything one can to get their best pal back which includes kissing in a club in front of the whole world in spite of them not being gay. They don’t care about themselves nor have any egos but just the desire to have Priyanka back as their buddy is what motivates them for the act.

But according to me the high point of the film lies in the last segment where Priyanka actually gives up her dream man Bobby Deol to get back to her friends who indeed cared and loved her more than anyone else. Even Bobby Deol accepted the decision and it was a mutual decision for Piggy Chops and Bobby to part ways for friendship.

And this was the biggest exhibition of "Dostana" in the film wherein an individual leaves her new found love for her best friends. It was very unfortunate that last week it was Friendship's Day and people failed to remember Dostana. There are several best friends who actually claim and make promises on these grounds that friendship is more important than their romantic life. Haven't really come across some individual who has stuck to such promises made even at a time when there have been years gone in nurturing the friendship while this new found love is just a few months old. But yeah surely there have been people claiming to be the best friends but then there are questions asked, "Should I leave the love of my life (who is just say a few months old) for your friendship (which supposedly years old)?"

This category of people is confused to make a call between old friends or new found love. If the happiness of these friends is more important then why not leave our own selfish interest and do the "right" thing? If one fears breaking the heart of this new found love, why doesn't that individual fear breaking the heart of the best friend? And doesn't this best friend love the individual as well? At times, I think if these people are honest with their new found love (and indeed if this new love is worth the love he/she is getting); it is this new found love who should actually initiate the decision making process because if one truely respects love, he/she should respect love in all relationships be it blood relationship or friendship or a romantic relationship.

I just warn those who actually are in the middle of such a situation to not wait for the "right" time to make their call but decide before it’s too late and their best friends give up on them. It won't just be an insult of those individuals but an insult of "love", "trust" and "friendship". And a new relationship cannot sustain at such a big insult shown to the above mentioned virtues. It might be easy to let go of best friends for the rest of the world but for people like me it is very difficult and painful especially where somewhere even after your best friend shatters your trust, you still wait for that best friend to come back to you in spite of the fact that the individual isn't sure which way to go.